I had this huge episode with my son almost a week ago. Now that I look back I think may be it wasn’t that big a deal. Last week we had a play date with a pre-school friend. Two firsts for him. One that he had a friend of his own to play with, not a family friend from our circle. The other that he was English speaking. I don’t know if I mentioned before but my son is bi-lingual, he started learning English recently at pre-school.
There was a little language barrier and the maybe the affect of the new place on the other boy. He started playing by himself within the first 20 minutes. As much as my son tried to convince him to play with him it didn’t happen. He brought all his best toys, but all the other kid wanted to do was to play with those toys by himself and expecting my son not to touch them! kids!
What happened at the end was that my son lost it. He was loud, he threw blocks, and very rude with me. All with me not his friend. I was able to find the reason, he was frustrated because he couldn’t make blocks like his friend. Everything was fine after that, although he didn’t want to say goodbye to his friend properly.
This behavior got me thinking. I noticed that for the past few weeks he was most of the time shouting not speaking. And making angry faces. I was scared that I’m not doing the right thing or he is suffering from some kind of behavioral problem. I was on tears talking to my husband over the phone. I decided this is the time to see a specialist. I had to get help I just couldn’t do it. So I got an appointment with our family Dr. to get a referral to a specialist.
Well she was able to calm me down and tell me probably this is because of language barrier. Or the fact that he needs more one on one time with me.
I changed my behavior, tried to be more patient and more attentive. I also made it clear that I can’t work with angry faces, rudeness, shouts, or whining. I also took a picture of him with his angry face and then with a happy face and showed him the difference.
We are having better days. He is more behaving, less shouts and angry faces and no rudeness. Wonderful! I think the reason is that he noticed that I’m not kidding when I took him to the Dr.
Well parenting for sure is a hard job. For most part you do what you think is right and hope for best. You can read all kinds of book but at the end it’s you, who has to decide what is best for your child.
Until later.
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