I was at the parent’s night at my son’s preschool. The subject was Sibling without Rivalry. One of the parents Nicole Maier is a family counsellor and she always has new tactics and gives you a fresh idea in parenting. This was very interesting and I thought to share it with you maybe comes handy. Here is what I got from the session.

We started by pointing out our experience and feelings of having siblings. There were lots of positive and a few negative ones. Some of the feelings that were mentioned are like, supporting each other and being supported, sense of belonging, trust, friendship, having a partner in crime. A few bad ones were like, fighting, hate and love relation, bloody nose. Competition was the main point.

Guess what is the source of competition between siblings. Fighting for parental love! Children want exclusive love from their parents. The first child’s life will be upside down when the second one is born. The first born had all the love, all of mommy and daddy, and all the toys now he has to share these with the second one. This is a big deal for a small child! He thinks his belongings are in danger and fights to protect them. That’s how the competition starts.

The thing that can help children feel safe and loved is to love them individually. Talk to them, show them you know what they feel. Let them talk about the bad feelings they have, even if it is about a family member. Then you can replace that feeling with a good feeling by showing them empathy and love and understanding.

There are more to say, come back for other posts in this subject.

Until later,

I’m a very positive person. Even in the worst situations I feel like nothing can hurt me and I’m magically protected. Right now with all kinds of bad news we have about world’s economy, I’m second guessing myself.

Is it possible that I’m just ignoring the situation? I lived all my teen years in a deadly war between Iran and Iraq. All I could hear was news of war, and the number of dead. We had friends in the war zone and at the end my home town was a big war zone. I can still remember the voices and the fear of the night we’ve been bombed all night long.The war ended almost twenty years ago, but I still can see the affect of those days in me.

Because of all the depressing news I received those days I have a way of ignoring media. If I could, I would refuse watching any kind of news. But this is almost impossible, so I try to ignore any kind of world news that makes me uncomfortable. Until now it was only war news I would stay away from. I’m not sure if I’m doing the same with the economy too. I hope I’m right and we are all protected by a magic power.

Until later,

Well you might say who does

I guess I’ve mentioned in a few of my posts that I have organization problem. When it comes to work, I know exactly what to do and the location of my belongings.

Well when it comes to my house, it’s a bit different, not that I don’t know where everything is. I know, but that is because of my good memory not that they are in their specific places and organized! Imagine that; add two toddlers, my home travel business, blogging (also working on a new travel blog), and my husband. I added my husband at the end because he really helps me, not that he doesn’t complain about the way I organized things while helping me.(He won’t be happy with what I said, but hey, it’s my blog I can say whatever I want)

Anyhow, I hired a help once a week to clean the house and maybe help with the children while I do some actual work done. She is very organized and knows exactly how to put things away to de-clutter. I have been inspired by her and decided to keep house the same as she left it for at least one week. I run a clean house don’t get me wrong. But I have to confess it is cluttered. I’m working on putting things back in their places or find a place for things that are just laying somewhere in need of a place.

This inspiration is killing me!!! It’s been three weeks that I promised myself to keep the house de-cluttered, and wasn’t successful yet. It’s almost midnight that I’m writing this post and this is my fifth chance to sit down today. Breakfast, Lunch, dinner, for a short time after I put the kids to bed, and now. Well I have done a lot of things done. Cleaned my bedroom, vacuumed the family room (several times), cooked, cleaned kitchen, did two load of laundry and well amazingly the clothes are all folded and in their drawers. Oh most importantly I reorganized my closet.

But I’m not satisfied yet, I can see toys here and there, there is my daughter’s tea set in the middle of her bedroom, and the bathroom full of floor towels (the kids splashed everywhere bathing) is left for tomorrow to be picked up.

Tell me, can I keep this going for long, will I get used to it? Will I be able to do anything else except cleaning? Is there a cheat sheet for housework? I did play with my children a little but they were entertaining themselves most of today, and we didn’t do any craft, and I didn’t work that much. I can only hope for an easier tomorrow.

Until later,

Surfing other blogs is one of my favourite things to do online. And tonight I found a very cool blog . It’s all about brain games and how you can strengthen your brain through games and some daily activities.

It is interesting that if you just brush your teeth by the other hand or shower with your eyes closed or try to write with your other hand. You will send messages to brain through different path and will kind of wake up those paths and it will lead to more brain cell growth.Or something like that

Reading The Online Brain Games Blog, reminded me of the things I normally do that leads me to good memory. (My husband says I have an elephant memory !!)  Memorizing telephone numbers, I’m crazy that way, although I have all of my daily numbers in my phone still like to dial it myself. I’ve been doing this for such a long time, it’s like a game for me. Another funny thing is that when I walk through kids room or play area I just notice what toy is thrown where. It’s a very handy habit and saved me a lot of time finding what they were looking for and can’t because it’s hidden under another toy.

Sometimes I write with other hand, say when I’m doing something else with my right hand and have to write a quick note. Have to practice on this one more

I was thinking to get my kids play some brain games, tried the Memory game. But they don’t have the patience for it. I have to look for some online games for them.

If you know of any interesting brain games for toddler, I’ll be happy to hear from you.

Until later,

Tags: brain, online games, toddlers

Finally I’m getting used to blogging and I think it’s time to make Busy Mom’s Blog more fun and personal.

It is very difficult for me to pick a theme, there are lots of options out there and at the same time not too many matches.

I will be trying different themes on a test run for a while.

I will be happy receive your feedbacks on the theme, or better if you have any suggestions for me.

Thanks