I was at the parent’s night at my son’s preschool. The subject was Sibling without Rivalry. One of the parents Nicole Maier is a family counsellor and she always has new tactics and gives you a fresh idea in parenting. This was very interesting and I thought to share it with you maybe comes handy. Here is what I got from the session.
We started by pointing out our experience and feelings of having siblings. There were lots of positive and a few negative ones. Some of the feelings that were mentioned are like, supporting each other and being supported, sense of belonging, trust, friendship, having a partner in crime. A few bad ones were like, fighting, hate and love relation, bloody nose. Competition was the main point.
Guess what is the source of competition between siblings. Fighting for parental love! Children want exclusive love from their parents. The first child’s life will be upside down when the second one is born. The first born had all the love, all of mommy and daddy, and all the toys now he has to share these with the second one. This is a big deal for a small child! He thinks his belongings are in danger and fights to protect them. That’s how the competition starts.
The thing that can help children feel safe and loved is to love them individually. Talk to them, show them you know what they feel. Let them talk about the bad feelings they have, even if it is about a family member. Then you can replace that feeling with a good feeling by showing them empathy and love and understanding.
There are more to say, come back for other posts in this subject.
Until later,
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