The other night we were at a dinner party, where there were other kids almost the same age and younger. When we are with other kids I always make sure my kids are fare, take turns and share. Well last night I questioned myself if I’m over doing this.
The problem was that because I was always getting in the middle to keep peace somehow other parents and kids thought that my son was very aggressive and mid behaved. While he was doing the same as other kids and was just an active 3 year old.
I felt so bad; I felt that somehow I’m creating something that’s not there. Other parents didn’t care how their kids were doing, even ignoring when seeing they were out of line and aggressive. I’m thinking of backing up a little and see how it goes. Although I’m sure I won’t be completely indifferent and will step in when it’s needed.
Do you feel the same? I’ll be happy to read your stories or comments.
Until later,
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Hi,
When I was reading this it was as if I was reading about myself. I act the same as you do and I feel that most people just don’t care how their kids behave – and if you do care they make you feel guilty and try to find that something is wrong with your child – is he socialized,is he too aggressive with other kids and so on. The question you should ask yourself are you satisfied with your child? If you are then there is nothing to worry about. Don’t listen to other people too much they will sometimes say something just for the sake of itself not knowing that it could effect someone’s life or decisions. Listen to yourself and what you feel.
I really like your blog by the way
Thank you for your comment. You are right I should only be thinking what is best for my son and me. What I need to do though is to cool it in the public. I have tried to just stay back and let him make his choices without me interfering in advance. I also watched other kids and moms. My problem is that I want perfection from my son. Sometimes I forget that he just turned four.