Today was all about being positive and concentrating on everything that is going good. I’m not sure if it was a coincident or it’s the work of universe. But lately whatever I read and listen invites me to be calm, positive and see the what’s working instead of the problems.
I’m reading this parenting book, Taming the Spirited Child: Strategies for Parenting Challenging Children Without Breaking Their Spirits which is great and is the only one that doesn’t put me to sleep. I have this idea of having a series on its subjects one day when I finished the whole book!! My progress was slow but continues, but the results I’m getting is fast and unbelievable.
Encouraging was the subject I’ve been reading for the past week. It’s all about seeing more of what your kid is doing good rather than seeing what he is doing wrong. Not that ignore the wrong completely but encourage the right doing.
I was reading this and using it’s techniques here and there not to shock my kids. But today was a breaking point for me. I was listening to a podcast on the positive psychology which confirmed this in other sections of life. The discussion was about that most people look for the problem to solve and heal instead of looking for what is going right in that situation and expand that. This way they have more energy to finish the task, compare to looking for the problem to solve. Looking for negative will drain the energy and make you give up easily.
It’s the same thing with kids, whatever you focus on, will grow. If you focus on bad behavior to change it, you will have more bad behavior as a result. On the other hand, if you focus on the right and positive behaviour, the child gets inspired to do more good.