My son is very shy, it takes him a while to get to know other people and get comfortable around them. He’s been kicking and punching a lot, so I thought it’s a good thing to sign him for a Karate class.
We started three weeks ago. The first session he went in the line participated for like ten minutes and came to me with tears in his eyes. I knew he would react like that and was ready for it. So very calmly, I told him that he doesn’t have to force himself, just have to sit and watch what they were doing and whenever he was ready he can go back in.
Well he didn’t go back. Let’s face it I was overwhelmed by the instructors big built and his deep and loud voice.
Last week, second session, was worst. I was sick and daddy had to take him. Son refused to participate and when he did, got in to trouble with another boy. Dad (being a dad and impatient) removed him from the class and brought home. Wonderful now he knows he can skip even watching the class
Today, he was telling me since morning he doesn’t like to go. I reasoned with him, asked about his feelings towards it. Told him all the positives. Nothing worked. So I bribed him!! I told him if he goes there and participates, he would get to pick up a chocolate from store. I didn’t care how he does, I just wanted him to try.
Well, we got there very soon for him to get comfortable with the area. He resisted even going and playing with some kid he didn’t know. Then suddenly it was all about who runs faster and he believes he is the fastest. He just had to prove it. Then, when the class started, he came along slowly, but it took him only 10 minutes to get the hold of the class. I have to say I had to remind him twice what was our deal. He did perfectly and he even didn’t complain when he didn’t get to pick up the blue color block
He admitted he loved it then. What’s not to like, punching, kicking, running. I know I have to work on this next week again.
I hope that won’t get to another bribe. But bribing can be good some times.
Until later,